Lifestyle Definitions – S

Sadism/Masochism (S&M or SM)
Sadism is the pleasure in the infliction of pain or humiliation upon someone, while masochism is the pleasure in receiving the pain.

Safe
In swinging, someone that is not at risk for becoming or causing a pregnancy.

Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD)
Also known as VD (venereal disease). An illness that is transmitted between humans by means of sexual behavior (vaginal intercourse, oral sex, or anal sex).

Single (SGL)
A person, male or female that is participating by themselves in the lifestyle.

Single Bi Female (SBiF)
In the lifestyle, a bisexual woman that participates by herself (without bringing anyone else along). (See also Unicorn)

Single Bi Male (SBiM)
In the lifestyle, a bisexual man that participates by himself . Many swinging couples frown upon single males being in the lifestyle, so a single male may have a difficult time making lifestyle connections.

Single Black Female (SBF)
In the lifestyle, a black woman that participates by herself (without bringing anyone else along). (See also Unicorn)

Single Black Male (SBM)
In the lifestyle, a male participating by himself, without a partner. Many swinging couples frown upon single males being in the lifestyle, so a single male may have a difficult time making lifestyle connections.

Single White Female (SWF)
In the lifestyle, a white woman that participates by herself (without bringing anyone else along). (See also Unicorn)

Single White Male (SWM)
In the lifestyle, a male participating by himself, without a partner. Many swinging couples frown upon single males being in the lifestyle, so a single male may have a difficult time making lifestyle connections.

Sodomy
“Unnatural” sex, usually anal sex or oral sex, possibly forced.

Soft Swap
Or soft swing/swingers is a couple that enjoys sexual pleasure with others that includes anything up to but not including intercourse.

Straight (STR- STR8)
A heterosexual person, male or female.

Swap
Two couples exchanging partners. (See also Full Swap and Soft Swap)

Swinger(s)
Also referred to as swinging. Couples married or in an open relationship, who exchanges sexual partners.

Swinging
Also referred to as swinger(s). Couples married or in an open relationship, who exchanges sexual partners.