People who are curious about joining the swinging lifestyle always ask, “Do I have to have sex if I attend one of these events” and of course the answer is always NO. They are also concerned about showing off their body in public and well, being rejected. Well, I get to tell that, that open minded people in the lifestyle is not hung up on body image. They don’t what your body type is, as long as you are confident and rejection happens in any club setting, but is how you deal with that reject that makes you the bigger person.
Overcoming rejection in a swingers club is the same as if you were out at a regular night club. A single girl at a night club or a unicorn at a swinger’s event will be approached by a few different suitors for the night. There are the touchy feely types, the stalkers that won’t leave you alone for the night and then there are some that will not take no for an answer. No always mean No. There is a great article in the new edition of LifeStyle Magazine that actually sheds light on “Swing Etiquette – Dealing with Rejection in Public”. I would suggest that newbies and even some veterans familiarize themselves with such customs.
There are a few rules to keep in mind. If you are approached by someone and you’re not interested, a polite but firm “Thank you, but no thanks” should do the trick. If the person still persists then a firm “No” should give him the idea. Some women may use “Not right now” or “Maybe Later” when they don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings, and that person may take it literally and continue to bother you. If you are being harassed to the point where you feel uncomfortable and they person just doesn’t want to leave you alone, bring it to the attention of security, a staff member or the host of that event. They can then take the proper steps to make sure you feel comfortable and are able to enjoy your time at their event. Download your free copy of the swingers publication LifeStyle Magazine and read more on “Dealing with Rejection”.