Quashing Misconceptions about Swinging and Swinger Couples

Swingers

Quashing Misconceptions

There is a reality TV show called Secret Sex Lives: Swingers that was  filmed in Atlanta – the heart of America’s so-called Bible belt – the show takes us into the lives of five swinger couples who swap partners as a recreational activity.

The show and the concept of swinging are no doubt controversial, but in a way, it’s a platform for the swinger community to clear up any misconceptions people may have about the lifestyle.

So what did we learn about swingers ?

– Swinger couples clearly understand the difference between love and sex.

When it comes to commitment, these couples are honest with each other. They understand that swinging is just a recreation that needs both of their consent before any actual swapping takes place. Meaning there is no cheating involved. Cheating only happens when one of the parties secretly hook up with another.

– There is a community of swingers out there.

Swinger couples hook up with other people who adopt the same lifestyle. In other words, they meet only like-minded people. They meet up at a swingers’ club, at a planned party for swingers, or even online at swinger sites created especially for the community.

This proves that although swingers are involved in a non-monogamous relationship, they are not as promiscuous as we think. In fact, they have to go on dates with another couple before they finally agree to any swapping activity.

– Swinging strengthens relationships.

In 2000, Bergstrand Curtis and Blevins Williams released a study called Today’s Alternative Marriage Styles: The Case of Swingers. In this study, researchers conducted a nationwide survey in which more than 1000 swingers participated. The results showed that in general, swingers have higher levels of happiness compared to the average married couple.

– It’s not just about sex.

In the same study mentioned above, about one-half of the swingers said that variety in their sex life is important in their relationship. This is expected, but what is surprising is that a third of the swingers said that meeting new people is what nurtures the relationship.

– Just because a couple has a pineapple placed upside down in their shopping cart doesn’t meant they’re swingers.

There are different ways to spot a swinger couple, but an upside-down fruit is not one of them. If a couple is flirting with you and your wife / husband in the open, there’s a chance that you’re dealing with swingers. If you’re new in town and want to mingle with others, you might not want to approach a couple and ask them where the local swingers’ club is located. Instead, visit a swinger’s website to meet local swingers in your area.

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